Most of us think behavior change is about willpower. Or discipline. Or getting to the root of why we can’t seem to stop doing that one thing—whether it’s late-night snacking, skipping workouts, or doom-scrolling until 2am.
But what if the key isn’t trying harder… What if the key is noticing what’s already working?
In this conversation, Stamina Lab founder Glen Lubbert sits down with Dr. Deborah Teplow, our Chief Program Architect, to unpack one of the most transformative insights we use in our coaching programs:
Nobody’s perfect. And nobody even does their problems perfectly.
It means the very behavior you’re trying to change — stress eating, poor sleep habits, procrastination, you name it — doesn’t happen 100% of the time.
There are always moments, even small ones, where you don’t do the thing.
That’s where change begins.
Instead of obsessing over what’s wrong, explore how to:
- Spot the exceptions — moments where the problem fades or feels less intense
- Identify the instances where your desired outcome is already happening
- Stop relying on willpower alone, and instead build on strengths already within you
This conversation is refreshingly honest and full of hope — especially if you’ve ever said “Why do I keep doing this?” and felt stuck in the loop.
Why This Matters for Behavior Change
Stamina Lab’s evidence-based, solution-focused coaching approach is rooted in the science of what works. Instead of labeling, pathologizing, or diving into “root causes,” we help people move forward by focusing on:
- Strengths and successes (even small ones)
- Visualizing the future they want
- Taking actions aligned with their identity and values
This principle — that no one does their problem perfectly — gives people the freedom to notice progress instead of shame, and to shift from “fixing” to finding what’s already helping.
If you’ve been beating yourself up for slipping up…
If you’ve been trying to break a habit and getting nowhere…
Or if you’re just ready to think differently about change—
This is for you.